Desire.. Want.. GET
"Desire" is the stepping stone to "get".
If "Desire" did not exist, then the feeling of "want" would never come.. and "Get" would never happen!
Does it make any sense?
ok.. let me explain, take simple examples....
eg1:
A boy desires to be an crciketer. for that he wants to get into some good team for pracicing and exposure etc.... and eventually gets into the team
eg2:
A boy meets a girl... the boy desires for the girl... then he wants to meet the girl and spend time with her... know her better etc.. after that he tries to get to her by proposing to her....
so dont you see it? one needs to "desire" in order to "get" something.
if "desire" is strong, "want" becomes stronger and chances of reaching your desitnation and "getting" something becomes real.
I frankly think that "Desire" and "Want" are totally in our hands... but "get" eventually depends on the almighty and our destiny.
what we can control is "desire" and "want".. but eventually if we "get" it or not is dependant on if we deserve it as per god's will
there is always a super power controlling our lives from up-there.... who is the master....
we are mere puppets in his hands... its our faith in him, our desire/wanting which decide on what we get eventually................
People Change..hey so have I !!!!
yes! I have changed! its difficult to accept initially but i know that i am not the same as what i was say about 2 yrs back....i realised a drastic change in me when i went to a mega-mall sale today and returned home without buying anything!!!! thats definitely a new me! even a year back i dont think i would do something like this!!!!! i know it is too trivial a thing to write about.... but this has forced me to dwell deeper into myself and try and be a bit analytical about myself.. and i found out that.........little things about me have seen a transformation.. and i like to believe that it is for the better.initially these changes are too small to notice.. but on giving it a graver thought, one realises them .... and is as amused as i was when i realised these changes in me.....like-dislikes, choices, habits , hobbies, all can change.... i tend to welcome change.. but only as long as it is for the positive.. as long as it helps us grow a richer, more sensitive, mature human being... change is afterall, the essence of our live.so. .. henceforth i will try not to tell people who r close to me... " i can see that you have changed!".. if i can change... so can others................. AS LONG AS IT IS FOR THE BETTER.... AS LONG AS IT HURTS NOBODY................ change is welcome!!!!
Pressure? Whats that???
Stress! Pressure! Emotional Blackmail! Insecurity!
God!!!!!!!! the number of negative energies around us can be so many..that its sometimes amazing to realize that we have still not succumbed to it! and i tell you..its possible only with the help of one thing and that is Strength of mind & Will power.If we are strong mentally, no amount of negativity can deter us from reaching our goals. No amount of negativity can deflate our moral.I agree that however strong we may be mentally, at times we do tend to get into those blues where we tend to surround ourselves with all those negative emotions.. when we see only the blues.... but i tell you.. if we are mentally strong, then we jump back to the positive bandwagon very soon.. and try and see the light at the end of the tunnel.....I personally believe that what happens to us and the direction our life takes is a direct bi-product of how we have chosen to live our life.. how we perceive our life to be.. on what kind of decisions we have taken in our individual lives..........as we sow..so shall we reap.......... and yes we ourselves are responsible for our future.. nobody else is! destiny does play a role in it.. but we walk the path on our own.. nobody else is/or can be held responsible for the path our life has taken......................... pressure or no pressure!!
Resolutions!!New Years???Naaah!
make a resolution.. you should have some sort of a rosolution.. stick to your resolution.. dont break yuor resolution..
resolution! resolution! resolution!!
is new years the only time in the year to make a resolution? cant we make it at some other time?
why then is it so special to make aresolution in new years?
why is it that people always keep asking you .. whats your new years resolution??????
and mind you.. it does not stop at making resolutions!! people also go a few steps further to tell.. sont you break your resolution..
so do you manage not to break your resolution.. or better still.. arent resolutions meant to be broken???
making (and breaking) new years resolution seems to have become a national pasttime amongst people who have nothing better to talk about looks like..
hey! mind you i am not against making resolutions..
i am all for it..
i believe it helps us to identify our expecttaions from self..from life..
it helps us to create a kind of blue print to achieving our goals ..
but i am dead against this concept of NEW YEARS RESOLUTION!!
i believe that a resolution can be made at any time in the year
what is important is udnerstanding our own requirements and realising the path that we are going to be taking in order to fullfill our dreams..
its not important if we break it or do not achive the goal at one time..
what is important is that we understand where we are going and where we went wrong. to learn from our mistakes and not to make them again..
and i definitely do not think that a new year is required for us to achieve all this..
and least of all a new years resolution which has become no more than a statement for most!!!!!!!
love is around us...
love is around us.. love is within us.. love is with us..
call it what you wish to.. but yes!!! i believe in love.
life is all about love..
and yes.. i have found love.. in my life .. with my life....
mad that it may sound.. but yes.. its true..
i know of many people who crib all the time about the lack of love in their life.. my advise to them would only be.. look around you.. and thou shall find it. :)
its out there.. its just that sometimes we become too blind in our own selfish world to realise it :)
life is beautiful.. its gods' gift to us.. and it is upon us to make it even more beautiful..isnt it?
i know that what i write may sound a bit cliched.. but then its something that needs to be valued and emphasised upon.
in our daily routine and rush thro' life.. we tend to forget the basic essence of our lives.... the purpose of our sheer birth... the reason for our being.. who will delve deeper into these aspects?
why dont we just begin with love? am sure..the rest will follow.....
my blog after long....
You know.. Am visiting my blog after a long gap.. a lot has happened in my life in this time span.. many things have changed.. my life has kind of taken a new meaning all together..
i no longer run after things. i no longer keep worrying about things that are not in my control. i no longer keep hoping to find love when love is infact all around us... :) . i no longer keep thinking that "noone loves me, noone is meant for me"
frankly if you ask me, even i am not so sure about these aspects of my life...
somebody has influenced me in such a way that it has left some indeletable marks in my view of life...
this somebody is someone really special. someone who has shown me what love means. sombody who has shown me the true meaning and purpose of our sheer being...
no.. no..its not the way you people may think it to be.. no.. its not an affair that i am having with someone in the usual sense of the word..
it is just something.. so............ spiritual.. yes!!! thats the word for it.. spiritual....
its at an intense spiritual level. something i could have never ever fathomed before i started to talk to this person.
... and hey.. mind you.. i have not even met him!!!!
can you imagine being so deeply influenced by someone whom you have never met? and it makes your life more beautiful?
well.. at this point in time i must say that whatever direction my life may take in future.. who-ever i may end up marrying or not marrying ,
I know that i shall always be protected and looked after by GOD. i am GOD's special child afterall.
i know in this world there is indeed a lot of reason to love and live for...
i know that i am ever thankful to god for having brought him in my life at this juncture when my faith from the word love was going away slowly.....
i know that love does not mean being together physically.. it has a lot deeper meaning into it.. it need not be a relationship.. it can just be a spiritual connect that one way feel and experience....
Random Thoughts!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Going by what all I have entered in my blog, i feel the name of this blog is a total misnomer!
It hardly contains the "accounts" of my life..
I feel the appropriate name for this blog should have ideally been "Random Thoughts!!!"
What I have writen here are a reflection of what I have felt at any point in time, its nothing but me voicing some of my random thoughts in words..
I actually like this mode of achieiving a clarity in one's processes and emotional balance. It does help me to jot down these random thoughts. they help me to come to come conclusive end to the arguments that i may have mentioned here.
In short, i for one am glad that my blog has taken this direction, It is better than what I had hoped for.
it does give a new dimension to my perspective to several issues that face me at different points in time.....
so.. hurray!! for the "Random Thoughts" which indireactly are fews pages out of my life too.................
How important is age difference between a man and woman in a relationship?
Does the MAN necessarily have to be Older than the WOMAN???
How much weightage should one give to the age difference between the man and the woman when one is considering matrimony?
Does age override compatibility??
Does age affect love?
Does age change everything that was once there???
Is age the only measure of maturity ?
these questions keep bothering me .................
I mean there are so many examples all around us which prove otherwise,
I have seen successful marraiges where the guy is younger than the girl,
then,
WHY is it that our well wishers keep telling us that it is better if the guy is older than the girl when one is contemplating marriage?
WHY is it that friends keep telling that the chances of a marriage lasting for long is low if the man is much younger than the woman in the alliance?
how bad is it to marry a guy who is a few years younger than the girl?
Logic tells me that age should not be a deterrent for a successful marriage!
If love, compatibility and trust exist, then age has little role to play in making marriage tick!!!
Why is it then people always tend to dissuade me when it comes to an alliance with a younger guy?
Why?
Destiny!!
Destiny!!
People tell me that it is what controls our lives.. irrespective of what we may wish to do.........
I beg to differ here.
I agree that in our lives we do not have much control over certain factors .. (two most important being.. birth and death)
I agree that however much we may try, control of these two aspects of our lives does not lie in our hands.
Destiny is responsible for them.
But...... I will not say this for the rest of our life.
The control of it lies pretty much with us and our faith in our own self.
Faith drives the other factors in our lives.
Faith for the right, Faith for love, Faith for the commitment with which we do our tasks, Faith in the almighty.
Afterall, we are nothing but Destinies' child, and Destiny does give us that little bit of control over our own lives.
It is totally up to us to realise this inner strength that each one of us posseses....
We all have that Power ... the Power to change our lives for the better.. the Power to do good.................. .............and this power is bestowed upon us by Destiny.
So how much imporance do we give destiny in our life?
I, for one, will never be just sitting low, doing nothing if i feel that something unjust is happening to me.
I WILL NOT blame it on my Destiny.
Instead, I will say that my destiny has given me the power to fight my cause and stand by what is right.
I will not be one of those who just sits back and cries coz things went wrong.
I will instead try to take out the maximum positive from the situation and fight my cause.
I usually live by faith, instincts and will power.
I believe Destiny empowers us with these factors.
So am i wrong in assuming that it is wrong to sit and crib saying..
"yeh to uske bhagya mein hi likha tha..............."
Bhagya badal sakta hain...
it is in OUR Hands................... and this our destiny has given us this power..
..........the power to change........
Identify me!!! hee hee !!!!
What is Right?
What is Right????
Who has the right to decide what is right and what is wrong??
Whose perspective of looking at anything is always correct??
Who tells us that?
How do we decide these things?
I feel that any situation or act would always have several perspective to it.
There would always some people who would condemn it and some who would support it..
then who is right in such a situation?? How do we know which way is the best way?
I guess as long as lives are not lost and nobody gets hurt physically, every situation or act is right from certain person's perspective....
So why do we humans always have a tendency to gossip, bitch or judge a situation or act?? Who are we afterall to decide if it is right or wrong?
few killings or acts of violence are justified by certain people , i guess we need to try to figure things out from their point of view also...
I personally believe that there isnt any act of violence that is pardonable , but am i Right in thinking this way???
Aint I being judgemental at this point in time??
Am i RIGHT???? WHAT is RIGHT????
I wish I knew.........
postives in all negatives.......I must say that the beauty of our lives is to always seek the positive in all aspects, sectors of our life....... to find the postive in all the (supposedly) negatives also.................I for one, try and not get bogged down by negativities in anything.. I try and see positive outcome of all episodes .. coz i believe that whatever happens is always for our best I believe that in our journey through life, each one of us invariably goes through several ups and downs .......... and each one of these is with a purpose.. there is a lesson to be learnt from each and every one of them, which is for our benefit... we need to just have a positive outlook and learn the correct lessons.Nothing is achieved by being negative about anything or holding grudges, anger or hatred against anyone or any episode. Negativity only reflects back to our selves and shows in different forms like frustration, guilt, anger, high bp, illness etc......... A negative attitude towards life can never help us.I know that in all negatives there is always a positive hidden ......... and the onus lies on us to find it and keep that smile on our face always .....................Hence i re-inforce that there is always a positive outcome of anything that is negative................ :)
Is it wrong??
When in any kind of relationship, i give it my full 100%.I dont believe in half hearted relationships with no commitment in it... and i expect the same from the other person concerned.
I always make this point clear to the other person in the begining....
I dont trust people very fast with my emotions... but when i do, i do it completely....
I become a sensitive person once I give my cent percent to someone else....
I know this ..
........and hence try to protect myself most of the times by building a protective wall around myself... and putting on an act of being just "
bindas" showing the "
care a damn" attitude!!! . coz i know, that
its extremely difficult for me to handle a broken heart........I can still handle a direct , forthright rejection,
but i find it difficult for me to come to terms with or accept the fact that someone i am fond of is ignoring me or bitching behind my back... that is what is the most diffficult part of a relationship for me to handle....
still i have come across people who do exactly this thing which hurts me so badly...
i wish they would just tell me point blank that they do not wish to communicate with me since we dont gel rather than beat about the bush and play the game of ignoring or not responding to messages...
i hate this from the bottom of my heart.. nothing else hurts me more than this.coz
when i give my 100 percent into a relationship, i expect 100 percent (or at least certain amount of sensitivites wrt me) in return.....I am a human afterall.. who happens to be a sensitive, emotional idiot!
Now tell me, is that wrong?????
wonder why.....................
Why? Why? Why? Why do we keep hurting the same person whom we love so much????????
This is one habbit that i have noticed with most of us, we take those people for granted who are closest to us.
Why do we keep taking things for granted the moment we get close to that person?
Why cant we learn to cherish and value each of our near ones's emotions all the time?
that would be so much better. it would not only ease all the stress, but also make the world a happier place to be in.......
we all know and realise the importance of our dera ones in our lives, but at some point in time we all tend to take that same person for granted and override or ignore their feelings.
WHY ?
this is one question to which i have no answer........... its one question which has always bothered me.... i still seek to understand the reason behind this attitude which is there in most humans that i have met till date................. ie, we tend to take the same person for granted many a times who means the world to us......... and in the proces hurt that person..............
i think we need to measure our actions and weigh our words very cautiously in order to prevent this .........
but is it possible always?? i wonder.............
Today is a beautiful day!
"Today is a beautiful day!"
....I hope to get up everyday in the morning and feel these words from within....
"Thank you for the wonderful day!!!!"
....and... I hope to say these words daily at night before going to sleep............
...But i guess this would be possible only under IDEAL conditions
... and Nothing is Ideal in this world, least of all our lives!
We are faced with innumerable dilemmas , and umpteen crossroads at every junction in our life daily.
The idea is to overcome these with a positive attitude and take them in our stride.
The idea is to be in control of situations and our lives,
...............but think practically...
IS it really possible every time??????
IS it really possible evrytime to FEEL positive even when you can see that NOTHING is working as per your expectations???????
I wonder................
I am sure we can TRY and be positive and TRY and see the right in the wrong thats hapening all around us and TRY and say that "ITS ALL FOR BEST"............ .
....... but am also sure that rarely will we at that point in time say ..."THANK GOD LIFE IS SO WONDERFUL!!!!!!"
i am one of those persons who believes that one should never spend more than 15 minutes of one's time feeling deppresed about one single issue...
one should learn to snap out of it, try and see positive in things, and see other aspects of life that is so beautiful.. be it, seeing the sun set in the evenings, or the birds chirping away blissfully, or even our friends saying.."hey buddy how r ya!".. i mean if we do look for it, we can surely find something nice in our lives!
i am one of those persons who believes this..
.............and yet, there are few times when i dont adhere to these norms, and i tend to feel really low because things dont seem to work the way i expect them to!!!!
these are the times when i get really angry with myself...........
.....but, i suppose it will take a while before i learn to be positive even in the most trying of times, .. i guess i need to be patient with myself and give myself some time and see the change happening... well.. at least i hope for it........
now let me end the note with a ...
"Thank god for this beautiful day...." :)
Relationships! Its Amazing how Interesting Human Relations can be...
I love to study the complicacies in humans and the variants in different relationships, experiences of different persons wrt their life etc..One day, i will give you different accounts of my life and others.... if there is anything really intreguing in life, its......... RELATIONSHIPS!
Infact at times i start wondering if my choice of career should be altered a bit to study the human mind................ I pride myself in being able to (create a mess) and solving it at the same time!I mean i have managed to get myself in (and smoothly out) of "trouble" several times... its happened so many times that now I really seem to take pride in the fact i manage to get out of trouble "spotless" at times!!! uh.... touch wood! i mean i am not exactly looking forward to "losing touch" with this aspect of my personality ;-)But i really think i have that "midas touch" when it comes to studying human relationships ..... Well....... so what if i may be the only one who feels this way ;) .................. i mean , nobody else has ever told me this !!!!!!!I still like to believe and feel nice knowing that i am good at this ..................... :-)
Forwards!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Forwards! Forwards and more Forwards!!!!!What the heck! Why do people insist on sending Forwards when all they need to do is to just write a line or two to say a few words??????I dont say that i dont like to get forwards..........
not really, few of them are indeed very interesting ones... but at times i do feel that with so many forwards in our emails, we are losing that personal touch!
I mean .............. am sure you will also agree with me that SMS is playing an additinal role in helping this same phenomenon in which we are losing touch with the persons...
to add to my woes, now we have SMS forwards!!!!!!!!!!! Like email forwards were not enough!
I mean, yes , its true that at times when the mailbox is empty,
a few forwards get a smile on our face making us feel "popular", but anyday i would rather get a few lines writen by a close pal of mine than replace those words of warmth with forwards!!!
Am i making my views clearer?
Well.. even if you may not get my point of view, am sure my blog will identify with this!
Till next time............
Amazing Himalayan Sights.........
The maze of life
I know life is a journey that we all have to travel. and like any other journey, even my life has its share of joys, sorrows, difficult times and fruitful moments.....
I love what life has to offer to me. I believe in living each moment, because i know that it is for my own good. God loves me and he has the best in store for me. That is my faith in him.
I dont claim to be a religious person, nor do i claim to be an aetheist.. i mean, you wont see me performing any religious rituals or keeping any day as sacred coz everyone else is doing it. But you will find me going to the temple once in a while all alone somewhere for a short while. So what would you call me? I will not keep any fasts or maintain any ritualistic practice just because people around say that its for "faster access to god"! No! i dont believe in that.
i know God is with me in me and he is there via my actions. If i am mean to a fellow human or to an animal on the road, i know that is a slap on the face of faith that i have in life!
But i do belive in a superpower whom many call .. GOD!!
but I see him in humanity and faith.
Am i making any sense? Well.. i guess thats me.. a bundle of contradictions with a clarity at the end of it all!!!!!!
No wonder people who know me.. cant do without me!!!!
Day1 with the blog
The thought of creating my own blog on the net was never an idea that really excited me!
I had never really wanted to keep my identity online...
but.. i dont know why today out of the blue i was pulled towards this blogspot and went ahead and created this account.
I call it Account of life because i believe my life wants me to maintain an account of my life somewhere...
Hence the name
