Does the MAN necessarily have to be Older than the WOMAN???
How much weightage should one give to the age difference between the man and the woman when one is considering matrimony?
Does age override compatibility??
Does age affect love?
Does age change everything that was once there???
Is age the only measure of maturity ?
these questions keep bothering me .................
I mean there are so many examples all around us which prove otherwise,
I have seen successful marraiges where the guy is younger than the girl,
then,
WHY is it that our well wishers keep telling us that it is better if the guy is older than the girl when one is contemplating marriage?
WHY is it that friends keep telling that the chances of a marriage lasting for long is low if the man is much younger than the woman in the alliance?
how bad is it to marry a guy who is a few years younger than the girl?
Logic tells me that age should not be a deterrent for a successful marriage!
If love, compatibility and trust exist, then age has little role to play in making marriage tick!!!
Why is it then people always tend to dissuade me when it comes to an alliance with a younger guy?
Why?
posted by Accounts_R @ 2:33 PM
13 Comments:
How did you start on this question in the frst place?
Why do you have to think of men & women and their relationships ?
If you get rid of these probably those wont bother you. There are better things i guess that you can do. Go watch cricket or atleast the highlights or do your laundry or cook or think photography or any hobby etc.
sir! its not only about men-woman and relationships! its generally views on stuff that touch the heart at different point in time
there is more to it than catches the eye.. one needs to find them
wrt the usual stuff that you are talking about.. well i agree a lot of joy comes from these.. may be one day i will write something on them also.. so keep logging on to check out!
i suppose you have not bothered to scroll down to see the other articles on the same page, hence this comment!
Well, these were nice thoughts. Though I agree that there is nothing greater than love in this world and nothing should come in between 2 persons who love each other. Age is 1 of them.
Now coming to the point why for centuries girls are younger than boys in marriages (in general). This is a point which comes to things like bilogical evolution. While a male has more sexual hungur than females and that too he is able to contribute to reproduction at a greater age. On the other hand bilogically and medically girls are most fit to give birth between 20-30 years of age. So the window remains less here.
Also, It has been observed statistically and doctors and psychatrists have shown that the girls who are close to their father search for a person who could provide them with same kind of security and benefits. So they get more attracted to a person who is greater than in age to them whom they can look up to.
There is many more thinks but due to lack of time I am not able to put in all. Maybe later.
In end I would like to agree that when 2 persons agree, age should not be a deterrant.
Hey girl, honest blog!! But can I be honest as well? It is a little simplistic. Most of the questions you are seeking were answered in the last century. Take a time machine and visit the 20th century. These issues are long gone and dead. No one for example raises eyebrows about age in relationships any more. Maybe you are stuck in an anachronistic order. But Right or Wrong?... yeah sure, that's an individual matter subject to individual interpretations, and will keep changing with time. Though the saying: One man's meat is another's poison, is going to hold true at any given time. Goose to you, gander to me..go figure.
dear "anonymous",
thanks for your "honest" comments, but frankly, you would have left the comment with your signature on it had you been really honest and not left it as an anonymous name :)
i disagree with you when you tell me to take a trip back to the 20th century to get my answers!
if that was the case and all questions had answers, then today there would have been no need for religion, faith or spiritual gurus and guides!!!! coz we would have had all the answers in books writen in the past!!!!!!
i believe that queries always remain the same, its just the nature and way of looking/responding to them that change with time.....
wrt things that touch our heart today, well dear, i must tell you that what touched the heart yesterday, touches even today and what touches today will contnue to touch tomorrow.. no generation or time is so old that it can be done away with................ go figure!!!!
cheers!
dear gaurav,
thanks for your feedback! its nice of you to put in so much of thought and stats into it... i appreciate the same
however i noticed that inspite of writing whatever you may have above, you have ended the comments with
"In end I would like to agree that when 2 persons agree, age should not be a deterrant."
... and this last statement say volumes which tends to override a lot of other statistical facts at a more spiritual level......
doesnt it?
Well I would let maturity between the male & female take a call on whether they want to get married inspite of the age difference.
Maturity of thoughts & action will determine whether the marriage is successful or failure and not the age difference.
Marraige requires a lot of commitment and understanding between the partners which will be possible only if both the parties understand each other.
I don't think age is a factor anymore for anything we do in todays world.
Comming out of shell is all we have to do to understand things in proper perspective. We might realize also life flows and we need to swim to enjoy.
thanks everybody for your comments and views.. pls understand that i am only voicing my concerns and thoughts in this blog.. it reflects things i have been observing or seen around me at different points in my journey through life.. it is not supposed to be judgemental or cynical in any way. its just views....... its not a reply to anything,,, its just a flow of thoughts as i get them... depending on my experiences through life........... i may or may not endorse some things.. but these things may or may not be right.. but then.. what is right?
love to you all out there
thanks for visiting my blog.. do keep returning
I did go through other articles of yours before commenting, believe me i totally understand your views and your idea behind the blog, but then if you think deep about my comments, they might make sense.
Its about being practical rather than just cricket.
The idea behind my comment was around your getting bothered rather than relationships. I feel if you get bothered by things that are out of your control, you probably might not do justice to people who are around you. I am kinda certain about this.
I used to be a similar person thinking or rather day dreaming about people/individuals and life. But then i was missing out on what i was actually supposed to be doing. By watching cricket i do not literally mean sit in front of the TV, but i guess it was better than, 'you need to get on with life' and all those good things when I know thats not going to work coz you've already mentioned what kinda person you are. At the same time i had anticipated your response the same as you have.
While i respect your views, I presumed that you are bothered coz you have narrowed your horizons to people who do not accept females being elder to males in a relationship. I have seen couples the other way round as well and in a great relationship and I am talking of a generation ahead of us.
thanks keyur!
well to be frank.. even i have seen several such successful relationships.. and unsuccessful ones too!!!!! i dont hole age as a factor for a broken relationship or successful relationship at a strictly personal level...but this blog was not endorsing my view.. it was voicing a general opinion ..thrown to the public to see their reaction.. and believe me.. its the way i figured it would be.. i am happy with all the responses and their nature.....
regds..
Doesnt make any difference, but the troubling fact is tht u are getting troubled over this issue! Gotta be a Liberal!
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